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Confidence: It Starts From These 4 Places

Let’s be real. All of us have moments where we catch ourselves standing in front of the mirror, criticising what we see. Whether it’s our facial features, our body types, or even the number on the scale, we find ourselves in constant battles of wanting what we don’t have. When we’re not comfortable in our own skin, it stops us from living to the full. We make excuses to skip social activities, we keep our cameras off in Zoom meetings, and we tell ourselves we can’t wear certain clothes because we’re “too this” or “too that”.

If you catch yourself see-sawing with self-doubt and self-esteem, I hear you, GF! I’ve certainly been guilty of letting reality TV determine how I’ve felt about myself. Body love is an ongoing journey, and as a mum with 2 kids, I can tell you it’s something I work towards every day.

So how do we stop the media from setting the benchmark on how we feel about ourselves? How do we gain the confidence to feel deserving, own the spotlight, and take advantage of the opportunities that come our way? Everyone navigates their own path, but throughout my mission to be a positive-body role model for my kids, I’ve learnt to do the following 4 things to help remind myself that every-body is worth loving.

1. Owning your top traits

Start each day by counting 3 things that you’re grateful for. Everyone, and I mean EVERYONE has things about themselves that are worth celebrating. It may be a quality about yourself, or feature that you like. Big or small, bringing awareness to your strengths is a great way to put your #BossVibes on.

2. Celebrating what makes you, YOU

I once had a dance teacher who taught me a very important lesson…She said “everyone has their weaknesses. Instead of hiding them, embrace them! Make them work for YOU.” There are always going to be niggly things about ourselves that we want to change. Instead of thinking we need to fit a certain profile or look like the next trending influencer, we need to show up and give credit to these things that give us character…because that boldness is attractive!

3. Harnessing the power of positive self talk

Words are a powerful thing. Try this: For a whole day, pay close attention to your language and self talk. Do you catch yourself beating yourself up or using limiting words? Turn it right around! For example, instead of saying “I hate that I no longer fit into my high school jeans”, say “I love the fact I can indulge, enjoy myself on weekends, and have a wardrobe that flaunts my sensuality!”

4. Spending time in a community that loves you back

They say it takes a village to raise a child. I’m going to say it takes a Tribe to teach the art of self-love! Developing self empowerment is one thing, but to have a community that celebrates belongingness, freedom of self expression and diversity, is a big part of filtering out negative chatter. That’s exactly what I found with The Pole Room. It’s the one place where I’m focussed on what my body is capable of. Because when I’m doing tricks, dancing it out, and being cheered on by a room full of uplifting souls, there’s no second-guessing who I am and what I can achieve.

If you’re ready to conquer confidence and take control of the beliefs that have held you back from being the boldest version of you, make a visit to The Pole Room. Classes are fun, relaxed and totally beginner-friendly. Even if you feel un-co, or have never set foot in a dance studio in your life, you’ll be in the hands of instructors who will work with you to become your best self. Send a message to [email protected] for a complimentary trial class. X

– Article By Shanae D

Top 9 Reasons To Have A Pole Dancing Hens Party

Melbourne is hands down the best place in Australia to host a Hens party. It has a bustling city and a vibrant countryside with a swarth of options for any type of Hens party. Bridesmaids who have ever planned a Hens party in Melbourne would admit that because of the abundance of choice, choosing the right option can be tough. Part of making the right decision for the bride is having all the information. Here are 9 reasons why a pole dancing hens party may be the right fit (or not) for you and your friends.

But before we start. A pole dancing hens party is NOT for everyone…

There’s no pressure on everyone to participate in the striptease lesson or the burlesque should the bride choose those package options. In fact every party needs someone to take the pictures and let’s be honest, without the pictures you’d miss capturing some hilarious moments. This actually leads us to our first reason:

  1. Pole dancing is not for everyone but it is for every body. See what we did there? Since pole dancing hit the mainstream in the early 00’s, it’s now recognised as a legit way to exercise for all ages, sizes and experience levels. That’s because at the beginner level any body can participate. In fact you probably already know someone involved in the sport.
  2. It’s appropriate for the day (and night): Pole dancing was born in the nights but most hens party’s are held during the day. The beauty of pole dancing is the time of day doesn’t matter. Most venues host pole dancing parties at 10am before the group goes to lunch and also right before the group begins a night out on the town
  3. Different types of packages. Some Brides will just want to learn the world’s sexiest pole moves, while others will want to learn how to perform the perfect strip tease. Do you blame them – they’ll need some new tricks for the Honeymoon! Once you decide on the right package the venue can always add some extra spins, twerks and pops.
  4. Get dressed up. Pole dancing schools are probably one of the only places you can get dressed up without being out of place. Come up with your own theme. If you want predictable? Charlie’s Angels. Originality? Ghostbusters 2. Burlesque? Moulin Rouge. 80’s aerobics? Jane Fonda’s and her entourage. It’s never mandatory but it always adds to the party atmosphere
  5. You can save the drunk for later! OK truth be told, some of the group will probably have a few glasses of champagne. But the fact is you won’t need shots of jagermeister to get the party started. Pole dancing instructors supply the metaphoric Jager Bombs through the music, movement and energy. The best part is that you’ll still remember the party in the morning.
  6. A social and intimate event with friends. Events that involve movement are much more memorable. This is because when we move we release endorphins we move towards a happier state of mind. Plus what could be more social than learning a skill together in a room full of 3 metre high brass poles and full length mirrors?
  7. Private venue and all minor details taken care of. Any good pole dancing venue will have everything taken care of. Snacks and nibbles? Check. Champagne? Check. Music? Check. Instructor? Check. Need to organise any extras? Topless hunks, Limo, Catered Lunch, Photographer? Check. In other words if you want a unique experience, most pole dancing venues can make it happen.
  8. Experienced instructor and host are provided. As an organiser of any event it’s your responsibility to get the party started. Thankfully pole dancing instructors are the entertainers. They work teaching pole because they’re engaging and know how to throw a pole dancing Hens party! They also know how to handle a group, which is beneficial (if not necessary) when you have a room of ladies ready to get their sass on.
  9. The overall experience: At the top everyone’s list when it comes to throwing a Hens party is making sure all the guests from Aunty Jennifer to Sally the next door neighbour have a fun and memorable experience. Pole dancing hens party’s are different for many of the reasons mentioned above, including the bonding, endorphins and sexy routines. Add friends, family and some pole dancing to the party and it’s all starting to come together. Now you all you need to do is write the invitations.  

Did we miss anything? Let us know in the comments below why you would (or wouldn’t) choose a pole dancing hens party!

If you would like to find out more about Hens Party’s at The Pole Room, visit www.thepoleroom.com.au/henspartymelbourne

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