A Male Pole Dancer Story

“You are an artist of the spirit.

Find yourself.

And express yourself in your own particular way.”

After mesmerizing us all at the end of term performance night I thought it was the perfect time to share this short piece about Damien one of the few male pole dancers at The Pole Room.

For those who know him well, it would come as no surprise that what started out as a simple student interview on his pole journey soon transformed into an exploration of dance philosophy, smashing stereotypes and the art of letting go…
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So how did you start pole dancing? Where did it all begin?

So, I was doing cheerleading and, normally, when I see something cool, I’m the sort of person who just goes and does it. So, I saw cheerleading and I thought ‘Oh that’s cool’, so I went and did it. And then I saw pole dancing and I though ‘Oh that’s really cool!’ so now I’m doing it.

And why pole dancing, what was it about it that intrigued you?

Because it’s beautiful. Because in the world certain things hold objective beauty and, I don’t know, I think it’s the greatest thing to be able to emulate that beauty and the natural flow of the Universe. I don’t know. I just want to be part of emulating that beauty.

And do you feel that when you dance you are?

Yeah.

That’s what I like about pole dancing. I don’t want to get lost in being the best and doing the next trick, because – when it comes down to it – the best thing in the world is just flowing; and you don’t try to dance the dance, you just let the dance dance you. If that makes any sense? So, it’s kind of like… Wait, I got a metaphor; it’s on the tip of my tongue… So, when you see leaves blowing in the wind, you can almost see that they’re dancing. So, I want to be the leaves. But I don’t want to try and be the best leaf dancing in the wind, I simply want to feel the dance flow through me. I think it’s really cool when that happens.

And I find that when the dance flows through me, when I completely let myself go – like the leaves in the breeze – I become mindless. It’s hard to express exactly how it feels, because in that moment I lose all words, I lose all mind and just become nothing but, I become everything at the same time. And that’s really cool.

Just give me a second to think of the next question. I feel so touched by what you just said. Um, okay… so what’s your favourite pole move?

Hmm, I don’t know. I still like the Janeiro most. It’s really back bendy and your chest is really open and it’s nice when you relax into it and it looks really pretty.

And how long have you been pole dancing for now?

Hmm, probably over a year and a bit. So it seems like I’ve been doing it for a while. But when you think about it it’s only been over a year now.

Wow, you’ve come so far so quickly.

Yeah, but it’s not about the difficulty, or getting the next skill; it’s about loving to dance.

Why do you think people like to watch dancing? What do you think it does for the observer?

So, dancing is like a fractal of the Universe. It is a small reflection of what the entire Universe is, so when you watch dancing you get a taste of the infinite, or God, whatever you want to call it.

What do your friends and family think of you pole dancing?

I think they find it interesting. I think they’re really impressed with the acrobatic nature of it, the physical strength behind it and the flexibility. I haven’t really had any negative reactions; I think it’s the people I choose to be around. If I ask a random person I’ll probably get a different answer, but anyone who I don’t really resonate with I just don’t see, or don’t talk to. Those people aren’t in my life anymore.

I find it interesting because society wants people to be more favoured towards the masculine or the feminine. And the way our society works we push people to be either one or the other and often people identify with being masculine and then completely reject all their feminine aspects of themselves, but – for some reason – I don’t really care what society thinks. So I just be whoever I want to be, and it just so happens to be that I’m comfortable with expressing both the masculine female aspects of myself, and that draws me to pole dancing.

What would you say to people that want to start pole dancing, but are maybe feeling apprehensive?

Pole dancing is an awesome expression of who you are. It’s really empowering to have an outlet to express yourself, and I find that people who start pole dancing become self-empowered to do things they haven’t done before, and express themselves in ways that haven’t done before. So I think it’s a really good way to express yourself and become empowered.

That’s perfect, thanks love.

Shannyn Leonie Performing Heartburn by Wafia

Shannyn has been pole dancing since 2010
Why did you start pole dancing? My friend was doing classes and asked me to go along, I was hooked after the first class!
Where do you want to take it? I want to take it as far as it can go, I love pole and am finally in a place in life where I am ready to push myself as hard as I can.
Why did you choose the song? The song Heartburn by Wafia inspired me because I just loved it when I first heard it, it gave me goosebumps. I like to put what I feel into my performances and at that point in time I was a bit emo coming up to VPC hahaha
What are your motivations when poling? For years doing comps has been a big mental battle, I always get terrified before I perform anywhere whether its a week 8 demo, performance night or full blown theatre comp. But it makes me feel alive thats why Im addicted to it. I like connecting with the audience because I want them to feel the show and get a kick out of it, whatever emotion/story it is.

Sue Crute, a TPR student story

Sitting opposite me in the foyer of The Pole Room is a woman as graceful and delicate as the white rose on the table in front of her although, with Sue, there is always more than meets the eye. Outside of The Pole Room Sue is a 62 year old community care attendant who loves to read, be in the garden and spend time with her two whippet dogs and cat, but inside the studio Sue is much more than many people her age dare to be – she’s an inspiring pole artist; as fierce, strong and sexy as any person that steps foot into a TPR pole dancing class. As the gentle morning sun lights up the room, I watch as Sue’s eyes light up similarly when she talks about her deep love of Pole Dancing.

So why did you start pole dancing Sue?

I guess because I was getting bored at the gym and I wanted to incorporate some beauty, style, grace and finesse into my workout and at the same time make it fun and hang onto what sexiness I still have left (laughs).

I want to do pole dancing now because the time will come when I can’t do it anymore because I’ll be far too old. So this is a big priority in my life at the moment.

What do your friends think of you doing pole dancing?

Well, some of them are a bit, you know, (putting on a hilariously patronizing face) “Ohhh yeah?” But most people are supportive because they realise that I’ve become very focused and that if I go for something I go in – boots and all – and that’s it. I can really latch onto something. I’ve had some people in my age group sort of literally look me up and down and go “Pffft”, you know?

And what do you say to that?

Well, I say to them: “What’s the alternative? Be like YOU?” (Laughs). No I don’t say that, I don’t say that. But I do say, “Well, you know what, I’m quite happy about it; I’m happy and comfortable with what I do, so make your own arrangements bud.” Basically, I think you get to a certain age, well I know I did, where I don’t really give a damn anymore. Honestly, I know that there’s nothing I can do to change anyone else’s mind; all I’m responsible for is me.

Absolutely, whatever makes you happy. And what do you think about people that criticize pole dancing in general?

What I try to do is, I try to find a nice opportunity to politely let them know that it is a fitness modality. Yes, it may well have started out in strip clubs years ago and it might still be in strip clubs, however, it is now a bona fide fitness modality and it is gaining worldwide recognition and I think there is even a move to push it into the Olympic arena.

So why do you come to The Pole Room?

Because it’s just a great community, its very supportive, very nurturing, and everybody really is out for everybody, you know. No ones nasty; it’s a very nurturing place.

Which pole dancer inspires you the most?

Well, Jas (Owner) obviously is one. And Mel, my instructor; and Jules (another instructor) too. There’s too many to name! Each dancer has their own style that’s quite distinctive.

Anybody that can do better than me inspires me. Anybody who is doing the best they can and I can see improvement in, inspires me. Even if they’re in a lower level than I am, I get inspired by their dedication and efforts and the motivation that they have.

And in the same way do you feel like you inspire others that aren’t yet at your level?

Apparently I do. It’s only recently that it’s come to my attention though, and I was really quite gob-smacked, and also very touched.

I don’t think you realise just how much everyone here is so moved by you. Not just by your pole progression, but who you are as a person; the positivity you bring to this space and the spirit you bring to this community.

Stop it, you’ll make me cry.

It’s true! We absolutely love you here because what you bring to this space is something that every single person here looks up to as women of all ages. Even these teachers that inspire you, you inspire them in return.

It makes me cry when I think that there are people here that really look up to me, you know, I just feel so ordinary.

But you’re not, you know?

Yeah, I’m just an ordinary person that goes home to a messy house and has to shower and wash the dishes and all that.

But you forgot to add that you’re also an inspirational pole dancer. I heard that you are going to perform a routine in front of everyone soon, even though being in front of an audience is hard for you?

Well it is because I’m, not really a centre-of-attention type of person. I know I’m a bit loud and brassy at times (laughs), but yeah, this performance is kind of a personal challenge I’ve had for quite a long time.

What’s the song and how would you describe the dance?

Everybody wants to rule the world, by Lorde. And it’s dramatic; dramatic and sexy.

Amazing, and what would you say to anyone of any age that is thinking of starting a pole journey?

Do it!

Simply, do it?

Yes, do it! Because at the end of the day we all have the same insecurities and anxieties and everybody else around you has got the same difficulties. We are all really the same so you may as well just get in there and do it. And honestly, you never know where it might take you…

Ringwood Pole Classes

[Special Announcement] Ringwood Pole Classes

The Pole Room Ringwood studio was built on the imagination of having a loving space to teach, dance, laugh and create. Our Ringwood pole classes were designed to bring people together, to learn a new skill, to encourage one another and feel that sense of achievement when you finally nail that trick or perform that sexy routine. At the time the Ringwood studio was built, the size of the space didn’t matter, it was the love of pole that made it all worthwhile.

Over the past term, we have come to the realisation that the Ringwood studio was only ever supposed to be a stepping-stone in the on-going growth of the The Pole Room. As our expertise in the pole dancing industry has evolved, we strongly believe that a more dynamic space is required for our students to reach their full potential. To ensure we can deliver amazing pole dancing classes (in a space that truly represents our brand), we have made the decision to bring The Pole Room Family together under the one roof. Moving forward all Ringwood pole dancing classes will be run at The Pole Room Kilsyth – 10/1-3 Southfork Drive, Kilsyth. This decision was not made lightly, however with our Kilsyth studio only 15 minutes down Canterbury road, we believe this change was necessary. All of our super talented teachers will continue to teach at The Pole Room and we can’t wait to unveil the changes we are making in preparation for term 2.

We would like to thank everyone who contributed to making the space outgrow its full potential. With the renovations almost complete at the Kilsyth studio, term 2 at The Pole Room Kilsyth will open more classes and courses to accommodate any increases in enrolments.

The Results of The Pole Room Survey are in… Drum-roll please!

Thank-you to everyone who participated in The Pole Room (TPR) survey. The results revealed some interesting statistics about The Pole Room and the industry as a whole. Some key findings of the survey were:

  • 85% of respondent’s surveyed were current TPR students.
  • 100% of Poler’s are participating in Pole dancing for the “Health and Fitness” benefits. This is an interesting statistic and could indicate that the sport is beginning to gain some acceptance and popularity as a fitness activity. Other results included; 82% of respondents are interested in “Learning New Tricks” and 79% are doing it for the “Feeling of Achievement” that comes with nailing a trick or routine.
  • Half of the respondent watch YouTube video tutorials to learn tricks and routines.
  • The value that best described The Pole Room was ‘Acceptance’, followed in a close second to ‘Fun’! This is no surprise considering the success of our community ‘Market Night’ and the fun that radiates through every participant and instructor. We’re so lucky to have you all!!
  • There was a very even spread among what respondents wanted to see more of at The Pole Room in 2016. Strength and conditioning classes, Pole and Aerial Workshops, Practice Session Availability and In House Student Competition were ranked in that order.
  • There is a fairly even split of Poler’s who have a gym membership and those who do not. Majority of students would use weights and other equipment if it was available in The Pole Room.

Overall the feedback was extremely positive and we thank you for an amazing year so far.

We will continue to examine the written feedback and will be working hard to implement a number of exciting new courses and programs in the future!!

Are Pole Bruises Bragging Rights?

I bruise easily. But in the pole world, that’s not necessarily a bad thing…

I remember my very first pole bruise. It had found me after many failed attempts at mounting the pole in my first beginner class. It was big. And sore. And ugly. My poor inner thigh looked like it had been used as a punching bag for a team of angry boxers. I was so embarrassed. Surely I had done something wrong?

Week after week those pole bruises found me, from my hips to my feet, my thighs to my arms. Over the years that followed I became used to my bruises. They were a part of me. There was the big “I bashed the pole” bruise that resembled somewhat of a big, dark puddle. The “I chinese-burned the pole” bruise that looked like a new breed of red freckle, which had started a mini infestation. The “I didn’t want to fall and die” bruise that resembled a paint brush stroke across my leg. And then of course the “I have NFI how that happened” bruise – commonly found on a body part that was never intended to touch the pole, and often leaves you wondering if you do in fact sleep walk.

As my pole journey continued into teaching and I became less self conscious about my bruises, a strange thing started happening… fellow teachers and students begun complimenting my bruises. “OMG! Is that from pole?”.. “Yeah”, I’d say.
“Woah, what were you trying to do?”
“Uhhh I can’t really remember”
“Well, it must’ve been really hard?!!”

Most of the time it wasn’t. Usually, I would be practicing an outside leg hang on my non-preferred side and my poor virgin skin behind that knee just couldn’t handle the friction… but hey, if it looked like I was trying to do a Russian layback then that was OK with me!

You see, sometimes it really doesn’t matter what you do but how hard your bruises make it look. In most cases however, the bigger the bruise, the more kick ass the trick. It’s the silent language between us Polers, “Oh god, it’s no hands Jade week, check out her stomach!”… Kind of like the Morse code of the pole world and no matter how long you’ve been poling for, you never seem to get “better” at avoiding the bruises.

On the bright side, you do become an expert in matching the bruise to the trick and your local pharmacist will become your new best friend, albeit he probably thinks you have haemorrhoids!

So tell us… are Pole bruises bragging rights?

Our Focus On Improvement

Can you believe that one year ago The Pole Room was only a fluttering thought, a wild dream, an impossible possibility?

Since The Pole Room’s inception into the world of pole dancing and aerial fitness we have committed to providing the finest instruction and results in Melbourne. And a huge part of that mission involves making continuous reinvestment in our business for:

  • Hiring and retaining the top instructors in the area. We hire trainers with expert knowledge, friendly personalities, and a genuine concern for your success. Check out our amazing pole dance instructor rooster here.
  • Continuing education from leading industry experts. Our philosophy is to make continual investments in our instructors and member-based systems to improve your experience and poling ability!
  • New equipment purchases. As we add unique and specific programming to our facility, we are continuing to upgrade and improve our facilities.
  • Small class sizes. We keep our classes small to ensure the best customer experience possible!

These investments are just a way of saying thank-you. We’re so grateful to have such an amazing community of vibrant and magnificent people who are committed to being the best versions of themselves.

With much love,

The Pole Room

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